Yes Yes Questions is my quarterly live advice column, that anyone can join for free. The questions I answered at the last one (and in this blog/recording), are:
1. How do I get close to someone who is semi-famous or famous in their field?
2. I am single and I don’t want to be anymore and I’m about to move countries and online dating doesn’t work for me. Suggestions?
3. How do I figure out why I’m doing what I do so I can start my business?
4. Can I put myself out there as a copywriter without a blog?
Want to get some free advice of your own, and sit in live on the next Yes Yes Questions? For dates, details and the secret link to join, pop your details in below or Click HERE.
But in the meantime, listen to the audio of the last one (where I answer all those questions) here:
Or for the main points I made, read on!
1. How do I get close to someone who is semi-famous or famous in their field?
Always ask yourself why you want to meet them? “To have cool, famous friends” is a perfectly respectable answer, but make sure you’re clear on that.
Once you’re clear, start to build an online relationship with them by ADDING VALUE to them:
– Comment on their blogs (EVERYONE LOVES GETTING BLOG COMMENTS!).
– Reply to their newsletters with no expectation of a response.
– Share their stuff on social media and tag them.
Basically, constantly remind them of your existence in small ways, and constantly add value to them. Not sure what value you’d have to add? Conveniently, the first video I EVER MADE shares how you actually do!
Here:
https://www.yesyesmarsha.com/addvalue
Then, once you’ve built a relationship with them, ask them out for a coffee (if it’s post-lockdown and you’re in the same city) or a Zoom/phonecall. How?
I’ve got an email template for that!
In the recording, I tell the story of how I went from being a fan of Jeff Goins to having him fly me into Nashville every year to speak at his conference. Click the play button above to hear it, but the short form is that I followed my own advice (and made a pretty risky boob joke that paid off).
2. I am single and I don’t want to be anymore and I’m about to move countries and online dating doesn’t work for me. Suggestions?
Some excellent advice I am stealing from (my advice column hero) Dan Savage:
When it comes to online dating, stop thinking of the first meeting as the first date. What you’re calling a “First date” is actually just the equivalent of seeing someone in a bar and deciding whether you want to see them again. Make it short and take the pressure off to KNOW THEN if you want to spend the rest of your life with them.
Be open to being pleasantly surprised. If they’re an a$$hole, then don’t see them again. But if you have a lovely time but just don’t feel the spark, be open to it growing.
The thing that you might think is your dating kryptonite (in this case, her travelling a lot) could actually be your superpower — if you meet someone who’d LOVE that in a partner.
Finally, remember that, with dating (just like job- and apartment-hunting), it can feel disheartening because you’re not getting an equal number of yesses and no’s. By its nature, dating (for the monogamous) is all no’s until it’s a yes. Hang in there.
3. How do I figure out why I’m doing what I do so I can start my business?
You don’t necessarily need to know why you’re doing what you are doing. Mostly because: you’ll often find that through taking action.
What you REALLY need to know:
What the problem it is that you solve.
(Why? I explain it in this video!)
Not sure what the problem is that you solve? Listen to me dig around with the question asker to find her clients’ problem, and it’ll give you some ideas. Click on the big play button above!
4. Can I put myself out there as a copywriter without a blog?
You don’t need a blog. You need some testimonials. If you’re copywriting, people do want to know you can write, so a blog is nice but it’s not essential. Because your clients don’t necessary want you to write their words in your voice.
What’s MUCH more important are testimonials — social proof that shows other people rate your work.
For any copy/stories/blogs you do write, please please please:
1. Ask yourself these two questions before you write a stitch: www.yesyesmarsha.com/2questions
2. Think about what your clients’ pain points are, and make sure you’re addressing THOSE.
Do YOU have a burning question you think I can help answer? Then you’re in luck!
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Thank you so much for reading! If anyone you know has recently asked you one of these questions and you’d like to share my answer, you can do that using one of the round buttons below, or click HERE to share on Facebook. Which of these are you going to put into practice? Or do you have any additional advice for any of these questions? I’d love to hear it in the comments below.
You rule!
xx (Yes Yes) Marsha
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