The Worst Thing You Can Possibly Imagine. Or Maybe The Best.

It’s deeply offensive.

I can’t believe anyone would even consider doing this.


A horrifying experience

Picture the scene:

You’re out at a work function. It’s a launch for someone in your industry – mostly, you’re there just to show face.


Just as you’re thinking of leaving, you spot your friend Liz, stood with another lady.

You go over to say hello.

Liz introduces you to Silke.

“With an ‘e’ or an ‘a’?”, you ask.
She tells you it’s with an ‘e’.

You ask Liz how it’s going with the apartment she just moved into.

“Fine”, she says. “But I really needs some thick curtains – the sun is searing my eyes open every morning!”.

It’s late, so after a bit more chat, you tell Liz you’ll see her soon.
You and Silke each say, “Nice to meet you”, and you leave.

 

The moment it all changed

A couple of days later, you receive this appalling email:

From: Silke Jannus

To: You
Subject: Eye-Searing Sun / Liz’s Friend

Hi [Your name],

It was lovely to meet you with Liz on Tuesday at the launch. She tells me she’s off to Ikea today, so hopefully she’ll find some heavy curtains!

All the best,

Silke (with an ‘e’!)
www.silkejannus.com

 
Shocking, right?

Totally despicable, isn’t it?

Can you think of anything you could find more outrageous?


Marsha, what the hell are you on about?

So obviously, if you got an email like that, this isn’t really the reaction you would have.

 

No one would.

shocked squirrel (unless there was an extra bit to the story, in which Silke broke into your house that night, threatened you, stole the book you’re almost done reading, then sprayed, “SILKE ROOLZ 4EVA” on your bedroom wall)
(but in my scenario, that didn’t happen)

You’re more likely to think, “How nice. That person bothered to take the time to say that”.

Or even, “Ah, yes. That lady. I remember”.


This is why it’s ALWAYS ok to write anyone you’ve met a “nice to meet you” email.


Covering possible objections

In the past, I’ve had clients worry about the following:

“Won’t she just know I’m just emailing her for the schmooze?”

 

My take: You’re not schmoozing, as long as you’re not saying anything that’s not genuine.

“Meeting you last night CHANGED MY LIFE IRREVOCABLY. I love you”.

– probably not true.

“But isn’t it bugging her by sending her an email?”

Two points:


(1) If it’s a nice email, then no.

Being told it was nice to be met, tends to make you feel good.
Being made to feel good is not bothersome.  

(2)

An email is a wonderfully unobtrusive thing. 

Click here to tweet that!

As long as you keep it short and to the point, someone can open, read and delete (or file) it within 15 seconds.

(I’ve timed myself to check)

 

The point of all this

So why send “nice to meet you” emails at all?

This I will cover next week. But the short form is:

 

This is networking.

This is how you build a network, and get masses of Business Friends who will help you out – and vice-versa.


Your Turn

shocked cat Is there anyone you’ve met in the last couple of weeks?

Send him or her a brief ‘nice to meet you’ email, just to see what happens.


Over To You

Have you ever had anyone chase you up with one of these?

How did it make you feel?

Let me know in the comments below, or by clicking here.


Thanks tons for reading,  

If all this made you think of someone you know, you can share it with them by pressing one of the buttons below, or eerily floating on the left.

You rule,

xx (Yes Yes) Marsha

PS this week, I told the Yes Yes Marsha Mailer Family about how I have a total stranger staying in my house – that I invited.

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26 Comments

  • Lacy

    Reply Reply August 29, 2013

    Funny stuff! But seriously, I think women in particular are worried about what other people will think when we’re networking or promoting ourselves. The bottom line? Do it with CLASS and you’ve got nothing to worry about!

    • Marsha (Yes Yes Marsha)

      Marsha Shandur

      Reply Reply August 31, 2013

      Lacy, do you know, I think you might be right. Like, “Who am I to be emailing you?”.
      And, yes, class is easy and simple!

  • Lorna

    Reply Reply August 29, 2013

    Marsha I was JUST thinking about this in the shower today. As a recovering introvert, I was mulling how one of my leftover symptoms is “not wanting to be a bother”. This is often what holds me back from introducing myself, asking for favors and even following up with people I have met. It is important, as you say, to remember that this is networking and will ultimately make or break my business. Thanks for reinforcing it in my mind.

    • Marsha (Yes Yes Marsha)

      Marsha Shandur

      Reply Reply August 31, 2013

      No worries, Lorna! Yes, it’s easy to worry about being a bother, but good to remember that a short, nice email is really not very bothersome.

  • Silvia Bianco

    Reply Reply August 29, 2013

    Marsha, I’m trying again to comment. If you see this you’ll know that it worked. As usual you’ve very cleverly dealt with an everyday thing. We get so many promotional emails in our inbox…and I don’t consider this promotional….that it’s always nice to get something personal, even if it isn’t so nice. I just got an email from someone who had just received my newsletter and it simply said. “Stop emailing me” and I thought, “What?” First of all my emails are super creative, like yours, and they share my really good recipes. If she doesn’t want it, all she has to do is click unsubscribe. But instead of calling her a dumb a*** I looked up her email on my list to unsubscribe her…only thing was her name wasn’t on my list. So I replied to her email and told her that I didn’t understand how she was getting my emails since she wasn’t on my list and for her to simply go to the bottom of the email and click “unsubscribe”. She replied that it wasn’t there and to just take her off my list. I finally had to take a screen shot, circle the unsubscribe link and send it to her. Didn’t hear from her again. Here’s the thing…I don’t get why people get upset over an email. Click delete or unsubscribe. It makes me wonder how they get through life if a sweet email is upsetting. What do you think Marsha.

    • Marsha (Yes Yes Marsha)

      Marsha Shandur

      Reply Reply August 31, 2013

      Silvia, I’m totally with you – it seems crazy that someone would get so upset. All that you can assume is that she has some other stuff going on in her life, try and feel some compassion (because if you get that upset over an email, something else must be *pretty bad) and wish her well.
      Hard not to take it personally, but it’s not personal!

  • Melissa Burkheimer

    Reply Reply August 29, 2013

    You’re clever, witty and I learn something new anytime.

    • Marsha (Yes Yes Marsha)

      Marsha Shandur

      Reply Reply August 31, 2013

      Melissa!! What a LOVELY thing to say! This made me so happy, thank you.

  • Elyse Sparkes

    Reply Reply August 29, 2013

    I’ve been practicing this lately too! All of a sudden I’ve started emailing or reaching out to people I admire in business and it’s been amazing. I’ve made some really great connections, just by either saying hello or letting them know I respect their work. It’s pretty cool. This post is a great reminder to keep reaching out!

    • Marsha (Yes Yes Marsha)

      Marsha Shandur

      Reply Reply August 31, 2013

      Elyse, so happy you’re doing this already! It’s such a pleasure, isn’t it, seeing what one little email can do.

  • Matthew Kleinosky

    Reply Reply August 29, 2013

    You get it. Thanks for helping us all get it.

  • Natasha

    Reply Reply August 29, 2013

    To: Silvia
    Who knows? Some time in the future your paths may cross again and she’ll remember “Oh my God! That’s the woman who was so nice and patient with me when I behaved like a complete klutz over her mailer…”, and turn out to be really useful to you in some soon-to-be-discovered way……

    • Marsha (Yes Yes Marsha)

      Marsha Shandur

      Reply Reply August 31, 2013

      Natasha – so true. When you can handle someone who’s acting oddly with grace and style, it can sometimes reap amazing awards (even if they are karmic, or to teach that person how to behave if anyone is odd with them. Thanks for chipping in!

  • Silvia Bianco

    Reply Reply August 30, 2013

    Thanks Natasha I know you’re right. And on another note I followed Marsha’s advice – even though at the moment I wasn’t thinking about it – and emailed someone I didn’t know but admired and he emailed me back delighted that I did and a clear bond was formed. Yeah! It felt so good and was so authentic both ways. Thank you Marsha for putting this little seed in my head.

    • Marsha (Yes Yes Marsha)

      Marsha Shandur

      Reply Reply August 31, 2013

      Silvia! That story has made my WEEK! So happy you did and got such a great response! Thanks for letting me know.

  • Lana Shlafer

    Reply Reply August 30, 2013

    Marsha, what a witty and wonderful post! You’ve really got a talent for getting the reader interested! I don’t usually send nice-to-meet-you-emails, but when I really notice/love something about a person, I usually take a moment to send them a love note – because I love receiving sweet messages as much as I love sending them!

    • Marsha (Yes Yes Marsha)

      Marsha Shandur

      Reply Reply August 31, 2013

      Lana – YES! Sending sweet messages of appreciation is an awesome thing to do! I’m planning to talk about compliments in a future post – I think we don’t give enough of them. And when we do, the results are amazing!

  • Andrea

    Reply Reply September 1, 2013

    I’ll admit that I’m not terribly good at sending “nice to have met you” notes. Yes, you’ll find me in the “I don’t want to be bothersome” line. But you’re SO right – it’s pure silliness! I’m never bothered when someone sends me a nice note. Who would be?! Thank you for so wittily illuminating what is essentially Networking 101!

    • Marsha (Yes Yes Marsha)

      Marsha Shandur

      Reply Reply September 1, 2013

      So glad it’s making you re-think it, Andrea! It truly isn’t bothersome, even though we can feel like it is. Try it next time you meet someone new! (or re-meet someone)

  • Aimelie Ronquillo

    Reply Reply September 1, 2013

    Ohh, i love this, I never would’ve actually thought to do something like this. I love the simplicity and authenticity of it. I know I would definitely love to receive personal emails like that. Thanks for sharing!! :-)

    • Marsha (Yes Yes Marsha)

      Marsha Shandur

      Reply Reply September 1, 2013

      Brilliant! Hope it inspires you to send some soon, Aimelie!

  • Julie Marah

    Reply Reply September 3, 2013

    Lovely post Marsha, very entertaining read!

    You’re right, this is something we don’t do enough of, even though we all know the importance and power of networking – and follow up!

    Taking these kinds of small, simple actions consistently can lead to big results over time. You never know who that person you just met and followed up with knows who needs exactly what you offer!

    • Marsha (Yes Yes Marsha)

      Marsha Shandur

      Reply Reply September 3, 2013

      It’s true, Julie! I’ve made some awesome contacts (and ace friends) from a simple “nice to meet you”, and had a lot of work come that way too!

  • Shana LaFore

    Reply Reply September 3, 2013

    I love your humor. Fantastic article, as always! A simple, sincere “nice to meet you” goes a long way.

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