How to be charming and the dark side of being charming (Yes Yes Questions #2 review!)

Two weeks ago – in the midst of moving apartment – I ran another of my live advice columns, which we’re calling YES YES QUESTIONS. For the first one, we’d had about 30 people on the call. This time, it was four – which, honest to goodness, I liked just as much, because it felt more like INTIMATE PARTY (that you can now eavesdrop on!) and we kicked it off with a very personal, really interesting question.

Here are the questions:

1. People tell me I’m impossible to get to know and come across as being aloof, especially in short-term interactions. Any advice?
2. If I don’t have a Big Brand Story, do I even need to use storytelling?
3. For as long as I can remember, I knew I was meant to be a Film Director. But now, after years of school… I’ve realised I want to do something different. Help!
4. How do you become a stand-up comedian?

Here’s the recording:

Below, I’ve listed the questions asked, and written a short form version of the answer I gave.

First though – I’m doing it again soon! Want to get some free advice of your own, and sit in live on the next Yes Yes Questions? For dates, details and the secret link to join, pop your details in below or Click HERE.

Here are the questions people asked and short form answers: 

1. Danielle LaPorte says, ‘Heart open; big effing fence.’ But I think my fences are too big. People tell me I’m impossible to get to know and come across as being aloof, especially in short-term interactions. Any advice?

Short Form Of Answer: Question where the aloofness comes from. Is it a defense mechanism, ‘If I hate you first, then it doesn’t matter if you judge me, because I already hate you’? That’s ok, just acknowledge. More on that HERE: yesyesmarsha.com/newpeople and here: yesyesmarsha.com/badmorning

Also, FAKE YOUR OWN SELF-CONFIDENCE in these situations. It will make you confident. It’s served me well for years.

Also, start with one small talk question before you get more interesting.

Also, being charming has a dark side, in the recording, I let you in on what that is.


2. If I don’t have a Big Brand Story, do I even need to use storytelling?

SFOA: YES. And also, while a Big Brand Story might get you press, it might get you podcast interviews – it’s not what gets you clients. What gets you clients, is a small, small story that people can relate to. I give examples in the recording.


3. For as long as I can remember, I knew I was meant to be a Film Director. But now, after years of school… I’ve 
realised I want to do something different. Help!

SFOA: Not everyone has a Life Calling – but if you do, it can change! For years, I KNEW I wanted to work in radio FOREVAAAAAA. But look at me now, happy as a clam, and nowhere near a mixing desk.


4. How do you become a stand-up comedian?

SFOA: Read my book (Yesyesmarsha.com/offthemic), and just do as many gigs as you can. And GO to as many gigs as you can, especially open mics. Also, this is pretty much the same advice for ANYTHING you want to start!

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You rule!
xx (Yes Yes) Marsha

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