The Reason Why It Doesn’t Matter What You Look Like

  You totally know the kind of guy I’m talking about. Girls do this too, but my most recent experience of being on the receiving end of it was with a dude.   My Irish friend Jonathan is a singer. Tall, with masses of brown hair and a deep voice, he’s effortlessly charming and impossibly…

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What Most People ACTUALLY Think Of Your Conversation Skills

When I tell people about the restricting experience that I had for a lot of my life, they often say exactly the same thing: “You! Shy?? No way! I just can’t see it.”

Even though their surprise is more statement of fact than compliment, I always get a little happy bristle. For so many years, I felt like I was behind a glass wall when I went out to places. My friends would all chat away to new people, but I stayed mute.

These were friends who knew that, when it was just us, no one could shut me up. So as well as feeling deep frustration, I got to feel some shame and humiliation.
*awesome*

The reason I never spoke to them wasn’t 80’s-inspired Stranger Danger. It was usually because…

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