How to Stop Acting Like a Total Weirdo Around People You Want to Impress (VIDEO)

A couple of months ago, I got to meet one of my heroes. Someone I think is AMAZING. The first bit of the encounter – when there were lots of others around – went alright.

Then I tried to talk to her one-on-one.
Before I knew what was happening, I was acting like – well, basically, the opposite of how I wanted to come across. Lots of spitting. Laughing too hard. Almost as if I was trying to make her dislike me.

Sadly, it’s a way of behaving that I know all too well. Happily – I’ve learned to give this condition a name – and some steps to get rid of it.

Is this something you’ve experienced?
If so, in today’s video, it’s my pleasure to introduce you to…

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What I Learned From Trying To Make Friends In A New City

They were perfect. Both of them. Exactly what I was looking for.

I sat, pretending to work on my computer. Listening to what they were saying. Trying not to laugh out loud at their jokes. Stealing glances when I could.

The two girls seemed to have known each other a while. As far as I could gather, one was some sort of designer or artist. The other worked for a non-profit. They were lefties, like me. They both dressed really well.

Picking up my mug to sip, I daydreamed. Imagine if I was brave enough to do what I really wanted to? I’d get up from my rustic chair, stroll across the cafe to their table, and stand above them.

“Excuse me”, I’d smile. “Sorry to interupt. I’ve been over there, listening to bits of your conversation. You both seem great. I love your clothes and you’re both really funny. Would either of you like to hang out sometime? I don’t mind which one. I’m new in town and looking for friends. Do you fancy being one of mine?”.

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How To Get Out of an Awkward Conversation – Without Being Offensive (VIDEO)

A little break from the norm: usually, I write and make videos about how to get on well in any networking situation. Especially, how to have conversations that are actually interesting and fun – even a short chat with a total stranger. My clients and readers have had successes with this stuff, at everywhere from art shows to blind dates.
BUT
Recently I keep being asked, “What do you do when the conversation you’re in dries up? How do you get away?”. Almost every new exchange has its life span – and you might need an exit strategy, even from ones you’ve enjoyed.

So, I made you a video – with a script – for these exact situations. It features a cameo by an A List celebrity. I don’t want to give too much…

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The Anatomy of a Networking Email

Something happened to me a few months ago that was entirely unexpected. A happy accident. And a PERFECT illustration of so many of the ways of talking to people that I’m trying to teach you.

The MAIN point I’m trying to get across when I talk about networking, is that it’s NOT about schmoozing: it’s about having lovely conversations with people you like. Basically, it’s doing what you already do with your friends – just with some other people.

It’s why I want to reframe networking, by calling it MIFing, or Making Interesting Friends (sometimes I even amend this to Making Industry Friends).

It’s why I love to surprise (and delight!) my clients when I tell them that they’re already good at networking – they just need to realise that and use it to their advantage.

It’s why my tagline is “Networking that’s actually FUN”. Because, believe it or not, networking can actually be FUN. Fun for YOU. For real.

The story I want to tell you illustrates all of this – and I’ve included…

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How to Warm Up a Cold Contact BEFORE You Email Them (VIDEO)

Writing a ‘cold’ email always feels hard. Even the word in that context is onomatopoeic – “COLD”. Like something you spat out. It just sounds so…*mean*.

As I’ve discussed, big shots in your industry can get 1000’s of emails a day. So how on earth is yours going to stand out?

One solution is to warm that person up first. And the easiest and most fun method? (No, not breaking into their office then forcing a snuggle). It’s…

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How To Write an Email Subject Line That Gets Your Message Read (VIDEO)

Remember when getting an email – any email – felt terribly exciting? Really early on, when you got your first email address?

Oh, heady days.

The vast majority of emails I receive won’t get opened. I have a filtering system so I don’t even have to look at most of them, but even of the ones I see – I delete about half without reading. Ones that have subject lines like PRESS RELEASE or NEW SINGLE BY LONDON BAND or MARSHA WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO CALL ME? I AM YOUR MOTHER FOR HEAVEN’S SAKE, IT IS YOUR DUTY.

Ok, joking about that last one (called her this morning). But you get the gist.

The sad thing is, some of the emails I delete are probably good, and might be a band I do want to listen to, or someone I would like to know about. But if I’m put off by the subject line? No chance. And that’s only out of a couple of hundred.

Big-shots in your industry – as I explain in the video – get THOUSANDS of emails a day. So if you want any chance of getting yours read? It must have…

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The Huge Misconception I Held – And Why It Led To Me Launching A Business

When I was 23, I got to experience what it’s like to be a pop star.

I spent a year as the Chair of the Student Radio Association, a sort of union for student radio stations in the UK. I know, I know – it’s hardly joining Spice Girls. Bear with me.

After I got elected at the yearly AGM & conference, a load of us went for a drink. The only thing I’d done as Chair at that point was to stand on stage and give a three minute speech about why I thought I’d be good for the role. My sole competitor was not a terribly serious candidate, and I was voted in by 33 stations to three.

I arrived at the pub a little after everyone else, and plonked myself at the end of a table that had four people sitting along each side. Then, something peculiar happened…

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My BIGGEST Client Secret: The Best Way To Sign Off An Email (VIDEO)

So, this feels a bit scary.

There’s this one trick that I tell my clients. I made the decision a while ago that I wouldn’t ever put this in a blog, because I thought I had to save something just for them…

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What YOU have to offer big shots in your industry (VIDEO)

Let’s say there’s someone you’re desperate to grab the attention of.
They get 1000s of emails every day. Yours needs to stand out.

You could send them a giant teddy bear, holding a heart, that says,

I BEARY LOVE YOU

Or…. You could ADD VALUE to them, in one of the ways I talk about in this video.

Yes, even you, my currently small-fry-compared-to-them-friend…

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This Is The Most Important Moment Of Your Life. Don’t Fug It Up.

People throw the word “unbelievable” around a lot. But sometimes something IS unbelievable. Like, you actually can’t believe it’s happening. To you. But…it is. It is.

For reasons that have been kept secret, you…

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