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I got hit by a van. It was really bloody scary. I’m ok. But I wasn’t.

Posted by on Jun 23, 2015 in Advice, Contact, Definitions of "Networking", Networking, Shyness, Storytelling | 8 comments

I got hit by a van. It was really bloody scary. I’m ok. But I wasn’t.

Everyone’s blaming the guy, but it might partly have been my fault. I don’t think I can walk away from what happened with zero responsibility.

I was tired. I wasn’t paying attention. I’m usually so much more careful – and maybe if I had been that day, I’d have noticed him pulling up so close beside me.

It’s Thursday afternoon and I’m on my bike. Waiting at a stoplight, I’m five minutes from home and on total auto-pilot. The light changes and I start to pull away.

Suddenly – WHACK! I feel a sharp pain in the back of my left arm. A van is right next to me and his wing-mirror hit me. Just as I’m figuring this out, I feel a tug. The rubber from my left handlebar has caught on the side of the van and I’m being dragged forwards…

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Want a Shortcut to Being Charming? Here’s One.

Posted by on Jun 17, 2015 in Advice, Confidence, Eye Contact, Funny, Networking, Shyness, Storytelling | 12 comments

Want a Shortcut to Being Charming? Here’s One.

I have to be honest with you about something:

I am inherently lazy. Nobody believes me, because I’ve always got a million things on the go. But whenever I get the chance to fast-track something, or cut a corner, I am IN. Sorry for tarring you with the same brush, but if you’re like me (and if you’re enjoying reading this blog, there’s a good chance you are like me), then I’m assuming that:

you are inherently lazy too. And if you are: good news.

There are some FANTASTIC ways to…

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How Do I Ask a Favour from a Long-Lost Colleague – Without Feeling Like I’m Just Using Them? ASK (YES YES) MARSH!

Posted by on Jun 3, 2015 in Advice, Contact, Definitions of "Networking", Emails, Follow-up, Networking, Video | 6 comments

How Do I Ask a Favour from a Long-Lost Colleague – Without Feeling Like I’m Just Using Them? ASK (YES YES) MARSH!

You have the perfect contact for what you need to do – in theory. Someone you knew a long time ago is someone you need a big favour from. But you haven’t been in touch in months or years, and have no idea how to go about asking them.

If you email them now, will they just think you’re using them? Find out how to do it in a classy way – that will make them ACTIVELY pleased to hear from you – here.

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Feel Like Everyone Else Has Their Sh–t Together and You Don’t? Do This Now

Posted by on Apr 22, 2015 in Advice, Conferences, Confidence, Definitions of "Networking", Eye Contact, Networking, Preparation, Questions, Shyness | 20 comments

Feel Like Everyone Else Has Their Sh–t Together and You Don’t? Do This Now

At certain moments in life, your emotional response to a situation is so extreme – and so inappropriate for your immediate circumstances – that you have to do everything in your power to hide it. Use every ounce of strength to construct your features into a shape that would suggest that you feel the opposite of the way you actually do.

Getting broken up with by someone you’ve not been seeing for very long, that’s one.

I remember another: I’d been working at Virgin Megastores’ in-store radio station for a few months, but I didn’t want to be there…

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Not Getting A Response From Someone? This Might Be The Issue

Posted by on Apr 15, 2015 in Advice, Contact, Definitions of "Networking", Emails, Follow-up, Networking | 12 comments

Not Getting A Response From Someone? This Might Be The Issue

Emma rolled her eyes, “Don’t worry,” she told me, “She’s ALWAYS like this.”

“Isn’t there anything we can do?” I asked. Emma was in charge, and I was too new to say what I was really thinking: that this woman was going to be isolated from the group.
“We’re not legally allowed to help her put it back in. So: no.”

I went and sat back down at the table next to Sandra.

“I’m sorry,” I said, shaking my head and pointing at…

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ASK (YES YES) MARSH: How do I stop my male colleagues from hugging me all time? (VIDEO)

Posted by on Mar 25, 2015 in Advice, Confidence, Contact, Definitions of "Networking", Networking | 19 comments

ASK (YES YES) MARSH: How do I stop my male colleagues from hugging me all time? (VIDEO)

I spent years working in the (very man-ful) music and radio industries, so I totally get where this lady is coming from. But when people are well-meaning and just trying to be nice, how do you tell them to get the hell off you – without being aggressive or creating a scene?

This is what we tackle in today’s ASK (YES YES) MARSH. Click “Read more” to see my advice…

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FREE CLASS – How to answer, “What Do You Do?”

Posted by on Mar 13, 2015 in General | 6 comments

FREE CLASS – How to answer, “What Do You Do?”

When I give talks (which you can learn more about HERE), this is the photo I use when talking about the question that can strike fear into the hearts of the bravest person:

You know how it is – you’re at a party, awkwardly asking a stranger how they know the host, when all of a sudden, they look up at you and say Those Words…

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How Not To Be Self-Conscious (VIDEO)

Posted by on Mar 3, 2015 in Advice, Conferences, Confidence, Focus and attention, Networking, Shyness, Video | 12 comments

How Not To Be Self-Conscious (VIDEO)

If you are a certain kind of person, going out can sometimes be terrifying.

If you’ve ever hung out with me in person, over the phone or skype, in the audience at a talk or workshop, or even just through watching my videos, it would be easy to assume that I was a pretty confident lady.

But if you’ve read some of my blogs, you’ll know that (a) I wasn’t always – it took quite a lot of faking it until I became it, and (b) I still have moments of almost-crippling insecurity, where going to an event feels really scary.

It’s in these moments that I employ a mantra – one I got from a Bridget Jones-related lady spy, and that I now pass onto my clients. Click play to find out more:

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Why You Should Ask Strangers Personal Questions

Posted by on Feb 27, 2015 in Advice, Contact, Definitions of "Networking", Eye Contact, Focus and attention, Networking, Questions, Storytelling | 6 comments

Why You Should Ask Strangers Personal Questions

Something very weird happened on Tuesday night.

Or, if not weird, then… alchemical might be the word. I had actually fully intended to write a blog about something else – some straight up networking advice (like I gave you here and here). But I’m still reeling from that evening and feel like I have to tell you about it.

It started innocently enough…

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Networking: When It’s OK to Lie

Posted by on Feb 18, 2015 in Advice, Conferences, Confidence, Contact, Definitions of "Networking", Emails, Eye Contact, Networking, Preparation, Questions | 4 comments

Networking: When It’s OK to Lie

I know the ten commandments suggest not to, but sometimes, thou SHALT lie:

If you’re on a night out, your friend asks whether her hair looks weird – and it does, and there’s nothing she can do about it right now, tell her no. If your brother was right in the middle of an important interview and accidentally let out a massive (and noisy) fart, then he asks you – mortified – if you think the interviewers laughed at him after he left, say, “They probably don’t even remember”.

If you’ve been paying attention, you’ll know that I’m usually all about not lying – not being a fake, schmoozy, gross caricature of everything people hate about networking.

But sometimes: you need to. Here are those times:

(1) When extracting yourself from…

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